My guy's dating someone else too
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
My boyfriend has been dating another woman. He tells me that he has same amount of feelings for both of us and is totally confused. He has a passionate relationship with her while with me it is more of a motherly relationship. he does not want me to walk away from his life buthe says he cannot break up with her as he cannot hurt her. I feel he is the one for me.
Would my breaking up with him and dating another man make him jealous and enable him in making his decision and make him come to me? He tells me it is me that he wants from the two of us but at the same time he cannot leave her.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Hey what's up nothing much here but i can kind of sorda relate to you'r pain because i was with this guy who came off as sweet kind caring honest trustworthy, everything a girl wanted in a guy...right?.. Well everything was going good between us and when we hooked up he told me that he will never hurt me and he won't cheat on me and that he's not a player but little did i know he had, a soon to be wife on the side and she was pregant with his child. But i didn't find out until he ended it with me i been knowing him for 4year's now 05 will make it 5year's and i thought i knew him better, than anyone in the world because he was the one i came to everything with he knew all my problem's and he knew all my thought's. We had so much in common as in emotional wise and other thing's when i first met him i fell inlove with him and i thought to myselve how could someone. like him wan't to be with someone like me but he did and it hurt alot more than knowing the truth. We hooked up during october of 01. and lasted until 2-7-04. And his cousin's knew about his other girl because she lived with him and he would tell her baby she's just some girl from work.
My whole family warned me about him and even an friend of mine's but i'm the type of girl who want's to learn and find out thing's the hard way and on my own term's, i tryed everything to keep us togeather and to keep everyone out of our problem's but. Then it got worse from there he would bearly call and he would bearly come over and when he did come over it was always thru mon-friday 2:00pm-12 sometimes 1 am the next day. So i know exaclty what you went through and no matter how hard you try tell you'rselve you don't love him there will always be a part of you, deep down inside that will always love him.
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