We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
We've been going out for a year. We have been discussing getting engaged and we truly loved each other. In the beginning, she asked me if I ever took my ex on a trip and I said no. I lied and some months ago she found a picture of us on a trip. She broke up with me, but took me back a few days later. Mostly I was scared to lose her and thats why I lied in the first place. I know its not an excuse. After, she realized she loved me and thigs were great. Now, 2 weeks ago I promised her and myself that I would quit smoking. A day after I quit, I smoked and kept the pack. She found it and then was so angry and dissappointed, she broke up with me again. This time I believe shes serious because this is the second time. I know I don't deserve a second chance, but I really do love her. But if I do love her, I never should have lied. I don't know what to do. Do I deserve another chance or should I let her go? I want to quit and was doing pretty well after that extra day. This all happened recently and I was just wondering what I should do.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Your girlfriend sounds more like your mother than a friend. I would never marry this bitch if I were you. Do yourself a favor and run from her as fast as you can!! What makes her think she can tell you what to do and then break up with you if you don't meet her demands? you can smoke if you want to. Sure its not good for you but you should quit because you want to. NOT because she tells you to. She needs to learn to accept you for you who are and not try to change anything about you. After all isn't it you that is in control of your life? Why are you giving her all the control!! right now you seem to be in a very bad situation. this break up really is best. find a woman who accepts you and doesn't try to change you and doesn't flip out for one small white lie about going on a trip with an ex.
This girl sounds PHYCHOTIC!!!!
for your own good please take my advice! RUN!!
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