Someone for everyone?



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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
It's been said "there's someone for everyone". if that is true, then why can't life be like the movies, TV or fairy tales? why can't a guy(specifically, ME)approach a girl and say "Hi, I've noticed you for a long time...from afar, and I'd like to ask you out. would you care to go out with me?" and then she accepts. I know how women are: they think a guy ONLY wants sex(and maybe some women are the same way. sex is all they want from a guy). but I don't want just sex. I'm not even looking for that. I just want to go out with a girl, hold her hand, listen to her talk, stare into her eyes, put my arms around her, read poetry to/with her, be with her, for dinner, a movie, a romantic boat ride, a picnic, or whatever she wants. just as long as I'm with her and appreciate her. why is it so hard to to meet someone if this is all I want to do? I'm a nice guy and I just want to be given the chance to show it(not just open doors for women and receive the complimentary "thank you"). but I guess, as the saying goes, "nice guys finish last"(because maybe all that women DO want a guy for is sex). I swear that I feel my heart will one day explode or kill me.




User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male
Feelings


I guess I should have specified that the question I had posed was a RHETORICAL one(which is why I said "why can't a guy just ask someone out...".). but as it has been said, a person has to learn from their mistakes. in other words: don't have feelings and emotions because you will only get hurt. being hurt is not worth the time and trouble. it is better to be hard-hearted, cold-hearted, unfeeling and unemotional. so as it has been said: "the best way to not get hurt is to not care".
~ "to some, God gave feelings and emotions as a strength, to stay strong. and to others, he gave feelings and emotions as a weakness to turn it into a strength, to learn not to become weak in the first place". ~

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