My Girlfriend Cheated on Me, Can I Trust Her?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
i've been seeing my girlfriend for 8 months now and have never had any reason not to trust her because we had a very open relationship, but all of a sudden she became very secretive about text messages and phone calls she was getting.
So one day i looked at the text messages and found out she had been seeing someone behind my back. At first she denied it when i asked her if she had been seeing someone else but after me badgering her and telling her id seen the texts she admitted it. She told me she'd met him at a nightclub when she was out with her friends, got off with him exchanged numbers and then had a txt relationship for a couple of weeks and then arranged a date. She told me she got drunk on this date and slept with him, a week went by and they went out again but she said nothing happend this time, i found out about this a couple of days later.
She tells me she made a stupid mistake and she can't understsnd why she did it and it ment nothing to her, but if it was a mistake how come she slept with him then went out with him again? she has sent me a letter telling me how sorry she is and that she would do anything i want her to to make it upto me because she knows she was wrong and that she hates herself for betraying me. I love her and proberbly can forgive her in time but how can i be certain it wont happen again? how can i trust and believe in her anymore?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
Something extremely similiar happened to me. Only my girlfriend was of 2 and a half years. I promise you, if they will do it once they will do it again. Especially if they are liars. Your story sounds so close to mine it's not funny. My advice to you is to move on. Because I didn't and well it got WORSE...much WORSE. good luck man.
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