My fiance cheated what do I do?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
My fiance and I have been together for almost a year now and last week she told me that she kissed this guy she just met. The week before that she went to Arizona with a girlfriend to visit some friends that were being shipped to korea, they are girls also, but on their way back thay had to bring this guy with them and drop him off at his house in the town next to us in Ca. I was very uneasy about this because I was cheated on by a previous girlfriend, but I trusted her a week later I told her I had a bad dream and now I had the feeling that something happen in AZ. At that time she told me that she kissed him but thats it. At this point I totally broke down, I couldn't believe she did that. I should also add that I just moved into an apartment kinda with but not really because her parents wont let her yet, long story. But we also Had only one bank account together, a car together, a cell phone plan together and two kittens. All our bills are the same everything is together you get my point. The thing is she says she hasnt been that happy for the past month and she doesnt regret it, I told that she needs to talk to me when shes sad or anything but she just doesnt. Now she says she wants to make it work and that shes not still seeing him but I've found text messages that are alittle suspicious but she just says it her gay friend so i looked at our phone bill and the numbers match with the ones during the time I knew she was talking to him but she denies it. She goes out with a airlfriend that I just heard about recently which makes me think she's lying but to tell you the truth I dont konw what to believe anymore everytime I think she's lying she comes up with an excuse and it makes me the bad guy, I dont know what to do anymore I'm starting to go crazy I try not to think about the bad stuff but it wont leave. I wabt it to work with us so bad I love her so much and I know she loves me too, but I just cant handle my heartbreak. She tells me she really wants to be with me still and wants it to wark but she still hasn't said that she was sorry. If I lose her I lose her I lose everything she's in control. Please help.....
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male
Listen to gut
The same kind of of thing happened to me man. Almost Identical. I ended up finding out she was sleeping around on me with a coworker. I suggest you sit her down and have a serious talk. And start filling your time with other things. THese two things will help your relationship and you. good luck and I hope things are better for you than they were for me.
P.S. If your gut tells you anything, whether it sounds absurd or not, listen to it.
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