WHY DOES MY BOYFRIEND CONTINUE TO LIE?
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I HAVE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR A YEAR AND A HALF NOW. I KIND OF FOUND HIM CHEATING WHEN I WENT TO HIS HOUSE ONE DAY BUT I DIDNT SEE THE GIRL BUT HE WOULDNT LET ME IN HIS ROOM (SO THAT TOLD ME A GIRL WAS IN THERE). BUT HE SAID HIS COUSINS WHERE IN THERE.THEN A MONTH LATER A FEMALE CALLED HIS PHONE AND SAID SHE WAS THE ONE IN HIS BED THAT DAY AND THEY BEEN TALKING FOR 4MONTHS NOW. I TOLD I DINT WANT TO BE WITH HIM BUT HE CRIED AND PLEADED TO GIVE HIM A 2ND CHANCE SO I DID. THEN 2 MONTHS LATER THE SAME FEMALE SENT HIM A TEXT SAYN GOOD MORNING SWEETHEART(AFTER HE TOLD ME THEY DIDN'T TALK ANYMORE). THEN THAT SAME MONTH I FOUND OUT HE WENT ON A CRUISE WITH A FEMALE AFTER HE TOLD ME HE WAS JUST GOING TO A FAMILY PARTY. THEN A MONTH LATER I SAW A TEXT FROM HIM TO THE FEMALE FROM THE CRUISE SAYN HE TOLD HER HE WAS GOING TO HOLD HER LAST NIGHT BUT SHE WAS ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE BED AND HE MISS HER. BUT HE TOLD ME THAT HIS COUSIN WAS USING THE PHONE AND TEXTED HER THAT. I NOW CHECKED HIS VOICEMAIL AND THERE ARE SEVERAL FEMALES ASKING HIM WHY HIS PHONE IS OFF AND WHY HE DIDNT RETURN THERE CALLS. BUT HE SAYS THATS BECAUSE HE DONT WANT TO TALK TO HIM.I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART BUT HOW CAN I EVER BE WITH A MAN WHO ALWAYS LIE?HOW CAN I EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN OR SHOULD I GIVE UP AND SMART AND LEAVE HIM ALONE? IF SO HOW?WHY DOES HE CONTINUE TO LIE?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
let him go
You need to let him go, you don't need him. Don't be with somebody they isn't really honest with you, especially if he has somebody in bed with him. He is lying cause he thinks/knows that you are believing him and he will do it more since you are believing him.
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