Second time he cheated
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I were together for a year and half, and then he cheated on me with another girl. We broke it off, and didn't talk or see each other for two months. He called me out of no where one day, and wanted to make sure we were ok. We talked for a few days, and decided we wanted to try it again-I always said I'd give him a second chance. We were back together for not even a month, and yesterday he told me he cheated on me again, this time it was worse. He was crying so hard, and he said he doesn't want to hurt me, and of course I said I can't do this anymore, but I really didn't want to let him go. I want to work it out again, but do you think it's really worth it? If he did it twice, he'll do it again? He said he's so confused, do you think he really does love me, he just needs to figure out who he is? I just want to talk to him, and be with him....it was so hard walking away.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Break it off
Hey girl look I know its really hard to give up the man that u really care about and love cuz im going through the same thing right now but he is hurting you too much. You need to break it off with him and sit down and figure out what it is that you really want. I did the same thing and I decided that i love my baby and need to be with him. But i changed also. You need to be strong and dont let him walk all over you or tell you what to do. You need to set down some rules and be in charge. dont be to hard on him but you need to be the one calling the shots from now on until he proves to you that he has changed. See the thing is u cant stop him from cheating on you but keep ur eyes open ok if he is trying to do things behind ur back. And if ur having sex with him well you really should think twice about it. Me and my boyfriend had sex like everyday then he cheated on me twice also. we are back together but we havent had sex anymore we are just foucusing on our relationship. I like how it is now he does everything for me, doesnt lie or cheat or anything. You should think about it first and do what u think is right dont worry about what others say about it. I hope I helped
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