How to make a long distance relationship work
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. He's 19 and I will soon be 18. He will be leaving for college in about a month and I will be here, a senior in high school. He is going to college on the other side of the country so I will only see him at Christmas, maybe Spring Break, and again in the summer. I know a long distance relationship will be hard work but we both really want to keep our relationship going-we've even talked about getting married once we feel we are ready. My question to you is, what would you suggest to make a long distance relationship work? Does it help to have some sort of routine-like call each other every Sunday and twice during the week? Plus, I know college is a time when most people figure out who they are since they are on their own for the first time. I want him to be able to have a great college experience. Should I suggest having an open relationship so he can have this kind of experience and thus doesn't see me as limiting him?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Long distance relationships are hard.They take a toll.There is a longing to see the other person.I guess it depends how far away he is.But my only thought is keep in constant contact.Thats all a long distance relationship becomes in the end.Thats why ill try never to have one.
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