Second time he cheated
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I were together for a year and half, and then he cheated on me with another girl. We broke it off, and didn't talk or see each other for two months. He called me out of no where one day, and wanted to make sure we were ok. We talked for a few days, and decided we wanted to try it again-I always said I'd give him a second chance. We were back together for not even a month, and yesterday he told me he cheated on me again, this time it was worse. He was crying so hard, and he said he doesn't want to hurt me, and of course I said I can't do this anymore, but I really didn't want to let him go. I want to work it out again, but do you think it's really worth it? If he did it twice, he'll do it again? He said he's so confused, do you think he really does love me, he just needs to figure out who he is? I just want to talk to him, and be with him....it was so hard walking away.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Once a cheater
Girl, what were you thinking. You did the right thing to let him go the first time. He called 2 months later to see if you guys were "OK". He didnt get it, you dont talk for two months and he thinks your still together. If he cheated on you once he will never stop, because he thinks "Oh, I cheated on her before so maybe next time she'll still want me" If you get back with him that's the message that you are sending him and every other guy because, ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER.
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