She Wants to Be a Princess
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I had a heated discussion with my girlfriend the other day, and subsequently our relationship seems to now be off the rails. The discussion was over the way that I treat her; I thought I was a romantic guy, chivalrous, but do believe in equal rights and equal opportunities. I plan romantic outings, give her flowers, open doors, Iím trustworthy and believe that women are entitled to every opportunity that a man is.
Where the problem lies is that she says I don't ďtreat her like a princessĒ; in that I don't buy her expensive jewelry, take her on vacations to luxurious resorts, or out to the expensive restaurants. I do buy her things, take her on trips, and out to restaurants. Iím not poor, not rich, but comfortable; Iím frugal with my money but not cheap and donít spend beyond my lifestyle. I feel that treating a girl like a princess means that she should treat me like a prince or better yet a king; meaning itís a two way street. If I take her somewhere expensive, then she can take me somewhere expensive. My big problem is that she feels that she shouldnít have to do anything more to deserve this. To me the ďtreat me like a princessĒ scenario is disgusting! As weíve learned from history, a princess is nothing more than a figurehead. Raised with class and etiquette, she serves as an ambassador to the monarch. Not to mention, a Princessís Prince always has a few mistresses; case and point Prince Charles and Princess Diana.
She wants more without giving any more. When I give advice to my friends, I compare their relationship to a Bank; let the withdrawals equal the amount of the deposits. Itís a two way street! Am I out of line? Should I cut my losses and move on?!?!? I love her, but I donít feel appreciated. What do you think?
User Submitted Advice from a unknown year old Female
Yep I agree also!
Thing is i am with my fiance 2years now and i love just been brought to the cinema an odd time, i have to admit he spoils me on my birthdays and christmas but i spoil him too!
Your girl is spoiled rotten and im afraid it has to do with you or maybe a past relationship, maybe her "ex" if she has one,gave her that bit more than you and now she expects it off every boyfriend after that!
You need to talk to her and ask her what your relationship means to her.
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