Fighting with bipolar boyfriend
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
hello its me ariell again, i just want to talk to you about this because your last advice worked lol well...you see me and him fight alot,i know hes bipolar his personality changes all the time.I want this relationship to work but when hes in his bipolar moment i get so mad at him we just fight and then we break up but i love this guy alot and i want it to work out ...also how should my love to him??? please help me you help alot befor and thanks so much.
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
Most men suck
Its like any guy, bipolar or not.
I dated large numbers of men, and my husband of 10 years (boyfriend of 3 before that) is the greatest guy I know.
My life is wonderful with him.
But he knows not to be mean to me and I know not to be mean to him.
There are no excuses!
Just because a guy had bipolar at one point, doesnt mean he should be stigmatized or stereotyped. Some guys just suck and are mean! Bipolar or not!
Dont say something is because its bipolar. I dated probably 50 guys in my life and like to think im very attractive, and wouldnt trade my man for the world. We have a girl and do great.
He does not take medications which hurt him so badly like so many other people you read about. He does it the same way that gal does it that starred with Chris Reeve in Superman. It really works. Many psychologists (NOT psychiatrists) use many things that work too, separate from drugs. The Eastern healiing mechanisms are very successful in dealing with bipolar, post traumatic stress (for Vets that have seen their buddies blown up into body pieces), major depression, etc.
This isnt fantasy, its proven fact, and has been used in Asia and India for thousands of years. My husband uses those things and never had a problem again after being in the hospital three times in his 20's. this guy, like many people who had bipolar, had a really horrendous life and family. His mother is a vicious jerk and hurt him so. I could never live around her.
If they are willing to show you they will never be mean toIyou, stay with them , IF they are a great person. if not, its like any guy! Cut the ties. My husband and former boyfriend is the best thing that ever happenned to me in my lifetime, and after dating 50 or so guys in my life and having my pickings, I think I should know a thing or two about men. Most suck. He doesnt. it only goes to show, everyone is different, so stigma and grouping isnt healthy.
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