How to act when she meets her ex
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
Please help :(. I broke up with my boyfriend and I can't over him. I begged him not too and made a really big drama queen of myself and mess out of tears on my face. He kept on saying , "We're over. There is nothing we can do to bring our relationship back." And then he said he was depressed because of me... Ok I do admit that I wasnt trusting him, but it was mainly because he kept on hanging around other girls and I felt liek he was ignoring me. I begged him to give it antoher chance but he just ignored me and said no. He said we could "talk" next Wednesday but that I shouldn't cal him or talk to him until then.
I feel so terrible for bitching at him. I sort of thought he would break up with me if I kept on doing that but at the time I was very frustated at sort of mad at him.
I really wish he could just give me another chance. He said he loves me.. but how can I just cope without him? We.. had a very "sentimental relationship" and I am feeling jealous of the thought of seeing him with toher girls. He knows all my friends and stuff and has dated some of them before so its not liek i can forget him easily
Argh please help! What should I say to him when we meet? I feel liek I'm gonig to freeze and shrivel up when I see him again.
Thankx for your help if you can.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
males are a different species
Girl, my advice to you snap out of it when your around him he knows how u feel! if you poured all your emotions out 2 him and hes loving it. dou really know how he feels let him do the talking or actions so u know.
Meet him calmly and just talk as freinds think freinds think your just freinds! okay
Then from their if he brings it up then it could mean that hes thinking about it but dont sell yourself out hes expecting you 2 beg it with him.
The element of suprise, right now hes calling the shots i mean even though your meeting it doesnt mean that hes gonna give the realtionship another chance? its 50 50 scenrio, he may just want u 2 chase him so he knows hes got you at hes disposale, the fact that he wants 2 meet you is a start i think that he wants 2 get 2 know you again and see why he liked you in the first place. Boys r unlike us but i think you should ask a boys opinion whose not gonna stick up 4 them! and go with your heart at the end of the day do whats right 4 u first and foremost.
I just erge you dont do anything he wants in the hope that youll get back 2 geva if he wants you no matter how long it might be he should make sure you know just like you have 2 him but just let it go if its not meant 2 b.
Plenty more fish in the sea should it not be?
whats meant 2 happen will happen males are a different species haha
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