She's Lost Interest in Me
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
me and my girlfriend been together for 3 years we have a 18 month old son. when he was 10 months old she got a chance to go back to school and take nursing. It happend fast and was hard she had to move with 5 days notice. she would not discuss nothing with me just said she was going.
so we got through that we are both here now but things are not good. she don't have anything to do with me she is very busy and i understand that but she won't make any time for us all she does is go to school come home and sleep. She says that she don't have time to spend with me and say all she cares about is school and the baby and doesn't have time to work on us and our relationship.
we are growing apart and i don't know what to do i try to do everthing at home to give her less stress but it don't work. we have made love maybe 4 times in the last year where she wanted to. most of the time all she does is complain about doing it for me and trys to hurry it and says things to take the mood away.
I don't want to just have sex i want to feel wanted and needed I do love her and my son but been trying to help our relationship for along time by myself and am geting tired. do you have any ideas that might help me.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male
Don't be clingy
I am in the same boat, my girlfriend and I have been together for about two years, she is a remarkable person who JUST GRADUATED from Nursing School. She takes her test for her RN in July. I think what you need to focus on and I know, from a guy this is going to be wierd... She is in an extremely intesive program. I know, I had to be the guy that was with the girl going through it. Sit down and read one of her books one of these days, you will understand. Its very hard, but stick with her, she needs your support whether she knows it or not, and in the long run, IF you dont drive her away by getting really clingy and needy, LIKE I NEARLY DID! she will get over this and things will go back to a semblance of normal...remember however, the normal honeymoon period can go on for nearly two years, it wont be JUST like it was, but it will be better then it is now. TRUST ME!
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