He's got a Nasty Temper
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
i've been dating this guy for about 2 1/2 years now. i love him a lot. but over the past few months we've been having heated arguments. it feels horrible!
i feel that he gets irritated easily n he is very fierce to me. he used to be much even-tempered n seldom lose his temper...but if he does, it's usually like a 'volcano' exploding.
anyway, the quarrel we had these days has lead him stomping off (he has always been like this) n he will even mention break up (he has done so a few times for past few months). whenever he mention break ups i feel very very sad... i feel as though my heart is being torn apart,literally. however i'll be back in his arms eventually after a few days of cooling off.
there were times i'm begging him to be nice to me the way he used to, i had begged him to stop making me feel so horrible n love me once again. i cried n cried that i feel too tired to bother sometimes...
but i'm not so sure if he understands me. we've talk things out n i did mention about how i feel...he nods his head said he understands but the cycle will still repeat itself again.
anyway, i just want to share my problem with someone who is willing to 'listen'.
i need to know why do i have to beg for my happiness?
is it time to end this relationship?
what can i do to have a fulfilling relationship?
m i too lousy a girlfriend?
can this relationship still be salvage?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Don't take abuse
I think the girl who responded to this hit it right on the head, I recently got out of a three month relationship after my boyfriend started to yell at me, or threatened to yell at me. People like that often see nothing wrong with this type of behavior, because it is a way for them to express themselves. Obviously, if he respected you, he wouldn't yell or scream at you. So girlfriend, he might have all the qualities that you want, but if he has a nasty temper, best let him deal with it without you. You don't need to take that type of abuse.
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