Guy in love with Best (girl) Friend
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I am a 26 yr old guy and my best friend is a 25 yr old girl. We talk on the phone atleast 2-3 times a week plus the weekend calls and we talk for atleast an hour at a time. I hate talking on the phone but when i am on the phone with her i just don't mind. Out of most of our friends we are the single ones. I really enjoy being around her and when i am not i am always thinking about her. I talked to a few of our mutual friends and they were all shocked that i liked her and told me not to tell her because of the friendship we have. Which is why i haven't told her yet. But all i can think of is eventually she we find someone (she is very attractive) and i won't be able to stand her with someone else, and i think i will regret not saying anything to her about my feelings. Even though my friends tell me not to tell her i can't help but think whether i should tell her anyway. I am the kind of guy that would rather see someone that i know alot about, however by that time i am there friend or her case her best friend. I hear alot of people say i am married to my best friend..etc. I think that is the way it is supposed to be. I don't know what to do about telling her. From what i can tell she doesn't like me like i like her, but on the other hand she has no idea i like her either. I just need some advice on either whether or not to tell her. And also if i am going to tell her what is the best way to go about it, in person, on the phone, letter, and how should i go about it. Anything you can tell me be greatly appreciated.
frind in love
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been Going through the same thing. The Only difference with my story is that The guy friend is 22 and I am 30 and He doesn't contact me over the phone,I have been wanting to ask him out 2 yrs ago but he has/had a girlfriend(he hasn't told me since Febuary when I told him the second time I liked him). I recently had a dream that he quickly kissed me and My roomate on a bus ride somewhere Unknown. I know what you are going through cause I also am worried he won't like me the same way I do. You should Take the risk of asking her she what she feels ok Good Luck
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