Always find mistakes
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Me and my lover,love each other for 2 yrs.But we met each other befor 4 yrs.We didnt meet each other after we proposed.But he found mistakes on me.Adn almost I try to change according to his wish.But my natural characters exposed out of me without my control.He wants me to change more.I tried to change but i couldnt.he doesnt understand me.I wont talk too much.Most of the time I will be quite.I will tell one or two words when he fought with me.I couldnt bare his harsh words.Even I did or tell a small thing he think it in a different way and convinced me to think it as a mistake.To end a fight,some times I accept it as mistake and ask sorry even it may not be a wrong one.please tell me suggestions to make it smooth our relaionship.
thank you in advance.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
again , its always best to communicate. thats how you keep a relationship stronger. always say your "i love you" and thank him or her for the good things you see them do. even if it is cleaning dishes or helpin you carry the groceries. stuff like that can keep a serious relationship flowing for a long time. and if you feel temptation or mistakes, remember that your lover is one of your priorities and that he needs to know what you are feeling so that he can comfort you. remember to always try to speak kind words. and that if you have the floor, your the one talking and that the other person needs to listen. let him know that you are having a problem and that you are worried about it and would like to talk to him about it. Communication. Its always the key.
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