How do I get him to talk alone when everyone is around us
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I have a problem with talking to my 21 year old male friend. We are never alone to talk. I feel it is time to talk about how I was disappointed he has A girlfriend and I am willing to wait till his relationship fails with her. There is another issue he has an ex girlfriend who I am very close to that is on our team, they dated two years until they broke up. He told me a week before Christmas he was over his ex I am very close to and she is over him too( I know this because she told me she doesn't have those feelings anymore). I do need to know if he wants more than a friendship and I want to take things further because of a long friendship of five years. He also needs to know I was heartbroken in the past( I don't want to go through another heartache). I am afraid I might get into trouble by getting close to him often.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
I'm going though the same thing and I think you may have left some advice for me. I think that the note idea sounds good. When I end up telling this person that I have feelings for how I feel, I don't know if I'll be able to get it all out without crying. The most sure way thing of letting her know exactly how I feel I believe would be by writing a letter, that way i'll feel I won't have missed anything. I've been working on it for a few weeks now, taking notes on things that she does for me. Anyway, this isn't about me, it's about you, and I thnk you should tell him and write a letter, that way, he'll have something to look at and read over, instead of trying to remember all the things that you tell him, and seeing as you might surprise him, he might forget some things that you say.
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