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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I met my current bf on the internet and we have been together now for about 1 year and we live together currently. I'm 30 and he's 24. I am really jealous of other girls he talks to on the internet. He has talked to them before he has even met me and he tries to tell me he that he doesn't want anyone else they are just friends but I'm so scared he will want someone else on the internet. I'm not jealous of anyone else besides these girls. I don't know how to handle that and I don't want him to give up his friends either. Can you help me please?
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
I have exactly the same problem and it is killing me. My BF though will not even tell me that "he does not want anyone else" because he thinks I should just trust him and he should not have to spell it out, that i am offending him. :(
It is hard to not wonder if it happened once it could happen again. But it is true if you act jealous it hurts only you. I think you have to accept that you can't control everything, and if it is not meant to be it is not meant to be..... there is no way to watch your guy 24/7, so trust is the only way..... I feel for you.
Each time I fail and act jealous, its like an iceberg landed on the relationship and i am even more afraid he will leave.... so I just have to hide it and move on.... maybe join some internet club yourself so you have some friends too.... not to make him jealous, but maybe to see that these kinds of friendships can exist?
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