Scared of being hurt again.
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi again, the telling jealous thoughts to stop (about the past) is working pretty well, but I have one more problem I have had for a while, and not just with my current. I have trust problems because I have been cheated on a couple of times in the past when I have become really close to someone. I don't tollerate cheating, either so obviously I ended those relationships, as I considered it unhealthy and needless negativity in my life. But I am scared of being hurt by my current in the same way, even though I know I shouldn't take it out on him. I've tried everything in past relationships to trust again, but It kept getting shattered. Now I have found someone perfect for me (As you know from my last message, he is in the military) So trust, already being hard for me when it comes to men, can be even harder, but I REALLY want to trust him. I suggested maybe we take a break from eachother (even though I really dont want to) just to see where we end up and he got upset and said he doesn't want that, and that he doesn't wanna lose me, at one point he even started getting teary eyed and upset, So I scrapped that idea immediately as obviously it wasn't the right way to figure this out! Do you have any advice on how I should build up my trust? thanks
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
For one if he is in the military he is going to be respectful and hes going to trust you. Also if he told you he didnt want to lose you he is probably telling the truth.Good luck:D
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