Nice guys finish last?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Most of your answers are closely relative to the side of women so here's a question from a man who's been looking for answers but never got them! You remember the old adage "nice guys finish last" Why is it that women are searching for the bad guy types? It is sad to see such things take place in society these days. I have upheld the moral values that most men in this day age wouldn't. I am so very much in love with this 1 girl. But everytime I try to make a move to get closer someone else manages to jump in the way. Everytime I put in my time some other guy has to do it the cheap way. Let me explain I told this girl that I really liked her she knows it. Well she went out to a club with her friend and suddenly she ended up with another guy who she now is living with. The problem is now she is being treated like a house wife where the guy has now control of her. She is one of the types that has a free spirit. We do hang out together and the man doesn't like it I witnessed 1 night ago that the man has locked her out of house and home because we were out together. During 1 of the phone conversations the man used his daughter against her and I really don't like what he did what's worse is I get the feeling that she's planning to go back to him as much as I love her my heart is breaking? I have tried my best to keep it but it's starting to hurt. What can I do for a love that may be already doomed?
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Male
Nice guys don't finish last. Whiners and depressives do, though. Chances are that a lot of self-anointed "nice" guys have some major flaws they overlook; it's hard to be objective about oneself. Same with women: It's true -- many of them don't really want a nice guy. Don't let that eat you. I'm a nice guy, and I don't have the slightest interest in women who want not-so-nice guys. I want a woman who shares my values, and until I meet the right one I'm not going to sulk about her not having come into my life yet. Admittedly, this is a lot easier to say now that I'm reaching middle age and no longer just looking for a piece of tail.
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