How do I get back into the game?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
It's been six months since I broke up with my girlfriend of two years. She moved on and found somebody else and I decided to cut her out of my life so that I can move on. I tried the friendship thing, but it was just to painful to see her off with somebody else, and I just continued convincing myself she's come back if I stayed in touch with her.
I haven't been on a date since the breakup, nor have there been any girls that have showed interest in me. I have incredibly strong fears of rejection, and I tend to be extremely anti-social around girls, especially if I don't know them. The more time that goes by without meeting someone, the more anxiety builds up. Thoughts like being turned down, not being interesting enough, or just not viewing myself as somebody that a girl would want to be with have started to haunt me quite frequently.
I always see guys around me with girls and wonder why I have so much fear, or why I am still alone. I guess my question to you is, what should I do about this? I need to break out of this rut before it gets worse. I'm not a fling type of guy, and I want something meaninful. I am very confused and insecure right now, and I really need to break out of this before I start to lose hope.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
All I can say is if there is a female friend in your life, ask if she would want to take things further and hope for the best. I been in your situation before so you're not alone. good luck
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