Am I Being too Picky?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
i have been single and dating for a while. Guys' comments about my looks range from "pretty" to "stunning". i broke up with my long term boyfriend exactly a year ago because i felt our relationship was stagnant, he did not inspire me and i no longer found him attractive.
all this year i have been "dating" but nothing works out. i fell for a guy and we spent three months together then he said he wasnt "ready" for anything. but other than that, i havent out of all the guys i have seen, found anyone that really captivates me enough to be in a relationship with them.
i feel like because i am pretty, successful and a nice person with a really fun personality, i deserve someone like that too. should i wait until i meet "the one" or am i being too picky?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
No, I dont think you are being picky at all. Everyone at least in my opinion needs an equal. You are alot like me, i need to be captivated to get into a relationship with someone, they kind of have to sweep me off my feet. Other than that it really doesnt do anything for me. I think someone that is too picky would have certain requirements to what type of exact job they hold, having an exact height, so on and so forth. But to know what you want is excellent and i feel that everyone should hold some standards to a certain extent. Face it when you get into a relationship that person is going to be with you alot, so you better adore them! My advice, dont settle until you find what you are looking for! ~ its worth the wait, although impatience is cruel, so is spending time with a dull, jobless mean person. hehe :)
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