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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for the past 7 months now. We have been fine for the most part, but it seems lately we have been actin differently towards eachother. About two months ago i fessed up the truth i lied about for so long to her and she says that is the reason why she's been so distant towards me. i told her i never had sex with another girl without a condom before i took her virginity, and she said when i told her that she was severely hurt and crushed by that. She's the kind of person who really isnt that good at sharing her feelings toward other people because she's afraid of getting hurt. So from then on she's been actin very distant from me, i mean i know i lied about that, but this has been going on for two long now. She never really calls me back when she says she will, she says i slip her mind, and i look at it like how can you say you love me and i slip you mind. It took me forever just to get her to open herself to me, and for her to tell me she loves me. Ive been tryin to let little things go but i jut cant tke this anymore, she pays me barely any attention anymore, and its hurting me on the inside everyday. Its like we were so perfect not too long ago, and now things have gotten so messed up. I love here and i will do literally anything for her, but im just tired of feeling so hurt and negleted from her. Lately she's been giving alot of her attention to her freinds and other things, and its like im the last thing she attends to in the day. Were aruguin over the dumbest things, and im starting to believe that she really taking me for granted, and not appreciating me like she used to. I so confused i thought the girl was to be feeling like this, and not the guy, i never heard of the guy feeling so neglected from his girl. If anybody could give me some advice i would greatly appreciate it, i just dont know what to do any more.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
I've been there
well maybe if you were honest to her in the beginning of ya'lls relationship the she wouldnt be acting like that she trusted you and for you to keep something in like that make her think well now how am i going to belive what he says right how am i going to tell that hes telling me the truth?!
you just need to give her time girls tend to hold there grudges longer then you expect them to and talk to her let her know from your heart that you want to win your trust back shes only distant from you because she feels if she gets close to you again then she feels she might get hurt!trust me ive been there!!!!!!!!!!!
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