My boyfriend and I get along good but he has a controlling sister that tries to break us up.
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
My boyfriend and I get along good but he has a controlling sister that tries to break us up. She use to do really bad things to me and I would always tell him but he would just brush it off and it would make me even mad at him into one day she did him wrong and he couldn't cover for her anymore. It made us commicate even better we discover she try to turn us aganist each other, so when it didn't work she decide to sit me down and admit that she was trying to destroy us becuase she felt jealous. After that happen I told her I forgive her at least I thought I did but just to know what I felt all the time was right hurt me more because my boyfriend told me that she didn't have a problem with me to make the long stroy short. I have relize that she has issues of her own happniess. I cannot believe she would target her own brother but my question to you is how do I forgive a person that has try to destroy me as a person. when she admitted that to me was she calling out for help or was it because she has another plan to get me you never know with her. her brother love her so much and I never done anything to come between them but now I just shut her out of my life for good because I was trying to say you are not going to treat me like this I been nothing but nice to you. My boyfriend and I have kids together and she has kids too and they notices the attention between us that their aunt should I talk to her about it or remain the same.
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female
Your boyfriends sister sounds like she has some real bad issues of her own.She is very jealous.She is unhappy and hates to see her brother be happy with someone he loves and loves him.Empathy does wonders! If you show some concern for her instead of anger,maybe,she'll open up to you and tell you why is this way.You'll be the better person because you will showing compassion instead of stooping to her level.She is very insecure and hopefully you can get to the bottom of this and figure out why she doesn't want her brother to be happy. Good Luck!!
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