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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male
I am 17 year old average pakistani college student living in london where i am surrounded by pretty white girls. well i am silly sometimes, definitely dumb like people say, ugly and stuff like that.
Ive never had a girlfriend in my whole life and the problem is because of my skin colour. I always see black girls and asian girls but on the street but i dont really pay attention to them that much.
i have asked out a girl before. she turned me down because of my skin colour, it kind of hurt but i kind of got over it,it knocked my confedince out a lot, it badly upset me, i really liked her.
I havent actually fallen in love, i know why i like white girls alot is because they're so sexy, other guys must feel the same as me. and i want to say hi and make a conversation but then what happenes if the girl doest like me and what happens if its because of me being 'PAKI'. i dont think i can take that type of rejection. i am very shy with no confidence at all, ive never had luck in finding someone who i want and i dont think that will happen. All my friends, even my white friends have said i have bad taste but i cant really change it.
could i be cursed or something? could there be another way to approch a blonde girl?, a girl at collge i dont know at all.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
You'll find someone
Since I am a girl I thought I would respond to your question. First of all, I am 23 and I have not gone out on a date yet, so you're not the only one who hasn't dated. I have been asked out several times, but I turned them down because they were too old, or because they were acting like jerks.
Secondly, it doesn't matter WHEN you date, as long as you find the right person. I am a white girl and I do not care about the color of my boyfriend's skin. Right now I like this guy who is Chinese/Khmer (Asian), and I like him for who he is, he's nice and sweet and smart &, to me, I think he's handsome. Interracial relationships can be difficult, but it won't matter because you'll be with the person you want to be with.
We girls often have trouble figuring out what a guy is thinking. Girls like communication & knowing they can trust you, so it might help to be friends with them first.
Don't worry, you'll find someone...you sound like a nice guy.
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