He Slept with Me, He's Ignoring Me
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I meet this guy and I really started to like him. Well we ended up sleeping together and after that everything kinda changed. We used to talk a lot and hang out now its barely. If I want to talk then i have to be the one to make contact. He never calls me unless i call first. I ask him if he likes me or what is goin on, he says he does and he really wants us to be friends, but what i don't understand is that lately if I ask if we can see each other he acts as if he is busy.
I don't know if i should believe him or just forget about him. i mean does he like me or not. If he doesn't why doesn't he just say so. Now he is mad at me because I told him I'm tired of him ignoring me. The problem is i can't just put him out my mind and move on. I keep thinkin about him. What do i do.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Notch him on your belt
Don't call him for 16 days. I promise you he'll call. Don't be available....that is the problem. Why should he call you when he knows you'll call him?
And you don't want to be friends...you want more. So don't lie to yourself. You deserve what you want....someone to call you and care for you. Not just a friend. It is ok to want more. And it is ok if that is not what he wants.
But to play the game write - throw away his phone number, delete it from the cell and everywhere. Do it! (If you need to contact him you will be able to).
AND DO NOT EMAIL -- he will show everyone how pathetic you are.
Give him space. And when he does come along -- go slow. Learn about the stages of relationships. And make him beg. And if he doesn't....think there must be someone who adores you that you just don't pay attn to --- go with him. Again, if you want someone to care for you don't lie to yourself an d say you want a friend.....you might just say the friend thing for closure. Give yourself closure. And you know just bc you slept w. him doesn't make him a prize. Make him a notch on your belt. So u used him for sex. There...is some closure.
Good Luck and be strong.....you represent all us women.
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