I am way too shy
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
I really like this guy and so does my best friend, but she doesn't know that I like him too. The thing is that I never tell anyone who I like. I am just really afraid that if I start telling people who I like that the guy will find out and I feel like if he finds out I won't even have a chance. Anyway, the first time I saw the guy, I was in seventh grade. He didn't really know me and I was too shy to talk to him. Through the year I tried to talk to him more, but I didn't become his friend or anything. He knew who I was and everything,but we barely talked. Whenever I saw him with another girl I felt really sad and forgotten. I am now in the eigth grade and still have a crush on the same guy. So does my best friend and she still doesn't know I like him too. I have three classes with him and in my 3rd period I could go up and talk to him, but I am way too shy. he's always around this girl and always talking to her. For a while I thought that he liked her, but I just found out that he likes one of my friends that's in the same class. I couldn't believe it. I feel like he would like me if he only knew me, but I am just too shy. It's not only that though because I do talk to him sometimes but then I feel like I'm saying all the wrong things and feel really stupid. Even if he does start to like me and we become a couple, my best friend might get mad at me, but I really want him to be my boyfriend! What do I do?
P.S. I'm sorry I wrote so much. PLEASE HELP!!!
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Ask your friend
It looks like yourve liked this guy for a very long time but before you start telling people about your crush consult it with your friend first and make sure its all right with her because mates come way before boyfriends...
If it is alright with your friend and she has no problem with it at all it might incourge you more with talking to him now that its ok with your mate...
If you still have no guts to talk to him then try getting one of your mates to talk to him ask some questions about you, ask for his number, or email address, any way to talk to him but not face to face.
Then as you graddually get to no him better you will learn to talk to him on hids own face to face or even on a date!
But if your mate doesnt like the sound of it then you might have a problem,and im afraid this one you have to make a dision for yourself.You can think whether its worth putting your friendship on the line for a boy that might not even become your boyfriend or a friend that you know you`ll always have.
But all i can say is there will be other guys in the world that your`ll attach to and like so dont always put your love on him!
best of luck! tash
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