He is very verbaly and even sometimes physically abusive towards me
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now and things have gone from bad to worse. He is very verbaly and even sometimes physically abusive towards me. We have never had sex because I want to wait for marriage and I feel he is frustrated because of that. Well, I recently took a vacation and met a 31 year old man (12 years my senior) who is in the process of divorce from his 2nd wife. We really connected and now I have feelings for him... meanwhile I still love my boyfriend but whether I would have met this guy or not, I am not sure I can spend the rest of my life with him. My boyfriend really wants to get married but I am scared that if I marry him, I will be abused. He is extremely controlling and possesive. I am really confused. Please Help.
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female
Leave Him!!! A man who would physically and verbally abuse you doens't have your best interests.He is a control freak from the word,"GO" and he isn't going to change because he doesn't believe that he has a problem!!I know it hurts and you love him,but,he doesn't love you. You need to focus on the guy you have just met. Take care and good luck!!
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