it bothers me alot and i dont know what to do
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
my lady and i have been dating for about 4 months, however i never asked her out officially because im not sure if she's girlfriend material. we also work together so we see each other everyday. we act like we're just friends at work but many coworkers know we're going out. there was a few incidents that happened really held me back to ask her out. for example, when we went drinking with our coworkers, some guy who work in the same company asked for her # and she gave it to him and i know this guy would call her up once in a while to ask her out. also, when we go to clubs she likes to act like we're just friends and she would enjoy dancing with my friends rather than dancing with me, or she would try to walk away and do her own thing. she also often flirts with my friends in front of me. i usually make a joke about it because i dont want her to feel restricted and i never get mad at her for doing these things. however, it bothers me alot and i dont know what to do. if she continues to be this way which means this relationship is not going to go no where. what should i do?? thank you very much.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Do the same
I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL, I BEEN THROUGH THE SAME THING WITH MY BOYFRIEND AND IM ONLY 14 YEARS OLD.ALL I CAN SAY TO YOU IS THAT YOU NEED TO LET IT BURN.YOU DONT NEED SOMEONE LIKE THAT.SOMEONE THAT ACTS LIKE YALL ARE FRIENDS, JUST HER TO STEP OFF, AND DONT TALK TO ME ANYMORE.MY EX-BOYFRIEND DID THINGS LIKE THAT TO ME AND I DID IT BACK TO HIM.SO HE WILL KNOW HOW I FEEL.AND HE ENDED OP FEELING LIKE ME.BUT WE ARE FRIENDS NOW, BUT I STILL LOVE HIM AND YES I DO STILL HAVE SEX WITH HIM ALL THE TIME.
The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer