He Wants Sex with Another Woman
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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
My friend was a virgin when we met. I got his virginity and he admitted to it. He said he felt at the time I was the worthy party and it felt right to make love with me.
Now we are engaged. I should tell you I'm 38 and he is 28 and we've known each other for 4 years. He has this issue of wanting to have sex with me and another female at the same time. I'm not into that stuff and I don't know how to handle it. What should I do?
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
I don't think you should be pushed or persuaded into doing anything you're not comfortable with, especially in bed. Bringing a third party into the intimacy of your sex life is almost always a bad call. You're likely to start doubting yourself if you see your partner enjoying sex with another woman and wonder if you're ever "enough" for him. Not to mention the whole scary issue of STDs -- some of which cannot be prevented with condoms and can be passed on through just kissing. If you're going to marry this man, make sure you're enough for him just as you are. Ask him why he wants to add another person to your sex life... if he just wants variety/change/spice, there are many other ways you can do that.
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