How to get him back again
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
my ex-boyfriend and i have been broken up for a week but we spend so much time together outside of school. he told me that the only way he would like me again is if some epifamy happened to him. i have no idea what that means so if you do, being a guy, please help. but i like him so much and this break up is my fault and im trying to not be so mean to him. he knows i miss him but i dont know what to do without him. i miss him so much. he says he doesnt want to be with anyone right now, but how do i make him miss me? how do i get him to bring his guard down so he can trust me again? if you have something i can give him to read that would be the most helpful thing. but im so stuck i have no idea what to do anymore!
thanks so much
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Know what you like
Well I was looking for the definition of that word "epiphany". Some how I ended up here. Recently I got together for dinner with my ex, my high school sweetheart.
Never in a million years did I ever think that I would ever speak to him again. We ended the eight year relation in 05/2000 because we had nothing in common. He was stubborn and we did not have a healthy way of communicating. I had not spoken with him since then.On 01/28/06 we went out to dinner, I am still in shock because now we have everything in common and we were actually able to mutually listen to one another and enjoy the conversation. Back then when we ended I was able to move on because I really loved him that I agreed to that saying; "If you love some one let them go, if it comes back, it was yours and if not, it never was". Use your new freedom to learn about who you are,knowing what you like and what you don't like will definately help you to choose compatable new friends.It sounds like you need to put your energy in to yourself not into that guy who does not deserve your kind heart.Take care of yourself, and live one day at a time because that's all we have.
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