I really love my boyfriend A LOT and sometimes I am afraid of losing him
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
I really love my boyfriend A LOT and sometimes I am afraid of losing him. We talk on the phone for hours, we both canít get enough of each other but I hate the fact that he likes talking about sexual things. Itís uncomfortable talking about those kind of things to me. When I try to change the subject, he asks ďif we donít talk about this, then who will you talk about it with?Ē I donít know what to do. He says we will always be together, but I donít know if I should trust him, or give him my heart. When we are talking, he tells me how he would love to have sex, and that heís still a virgin. But he knows too much about sexual things. He says he would only lose it with me. At times I feel like heís just saying that so I could do it with him, and other times I believe him. Sometimes when weíre talking he says he can wait until we get married, (if we ever do!) and sometimes he says if we are both in the mood, it might just happen. I am so confused. I donít know what to do anymore. Iím afraid I might just let him and regret it later on. HELP!!
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Well, this guy seems like he cares about you alot. As a girl who is not going to be a virgin in a few days if you aren't totally sure with what your boyfriend wants to do and if you really love YOURSELF, which is what a guy should make you realize and if he is in love with you for real he should accept the fact that you aren't ready. I'll tell you my personal story and maybe that will help you. I have known my boyfriend Conner for a year and two and a half months and I am so in love with him, I would die for him. I had been told all these lies about him by this girl Ammana who I thought was my friend but she really wasn't, he told me he needed to know me better and that he barely knew me, well the next time we planned to have sex and I would give him a blowjob because I knew all this stuff about him that he didn't know I knew and we had talked alot the day he told me that he didn't like me. He went to Michigan but came back because the weather was bad and now he's in Costa Rica. On the phone he told me he likes my personality and that he loves me. I told him how beautiful and comfortable he makes me feel in my own skin and he thought it was great that he makes me feel that way and was really amazed. So, I didn't know we were going out until I found out that this girl Jaclyn, whom I thought was my friend had asked him out and he said that he was taken by me and I was all he would talk about. Sorry, enough about me, well, thats just what I'm going to do is have sex with him when he gets back- he even told me he'd rather hear my voice than have sex with me. I'm a sentimental romantic (crazed with love) lol. Well, I think that if you have a strong relationship sex can bring you closer but in ways it can also bring you apart, just be careful!
The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer