I'm 27 - She's Only 14
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
There is this girl in my life that has been flirting with me for the passed two years. And for the passed two years I have considered it a invitation for friendship which I accepted. Then she began to flirt with me a little more intensely. But I became uncomfortable with how much more it was so I back away slowly. Then one day I woke up and I had this strong felling in my heart that I was in love with her. Then I began to observe her behavior to make sure she was some one I wanted to court. And I found that she is funny, intelligent, virgin, pretty, cool, and the list gos on. I mean I've bean waiting all my life for some one like her! When I found out that she is 14 my heart sank to the bottom of the abyss.
This makes her 13 years younger than me! I don't want to have sex with her because I practice no sex until marriage, purity is very important to me! But my heart still longs for her with platonic love. I asked her how old she thought I was and she said 19, O how I wish I was 19! When I toled hear I was 27 she became embarrassed and now she avoids me. I want to love her, but I'm afraid of the unpure villagers. They might come after me with pitch forks and torches. I can't help but feal like a beast right now.
So how do I make things good between us again? I know persistence will make thing worse. Even if love is out of the picture I still strongly value her friendship. Is their any hope?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
im sorry but you have to stop thinking about this girl that
way, she is a child that more than likely has a teenage crush on you and you are taking advantage by even thinking of her in that way.
im sorry it has to stop
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