She Has a Boyfriend - But Flirts when She's Drunk
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I met this girl about two years ago through another girl that i just met. She keep starting at me and asked me to say hi to her at school. The next dance we had she remembered me and we danced a couple of times. We would usually say hi to each other at school but we didnt really talk much. During the summer at the nightclub, she came drunk and was really friendly to me. Later on, i was sitting with her and her friends, and one of her ex boyfriends was right next to her and her best friend was on the other side. Her best friend didnt wanna dance so she asked me, and she held my hand and we got really close. I talked to her the day after and she said that she knew it was me that she was with that night, and that she wasnt that drunk.. even tho she was kicked out because of being intoxicated.
This year we had another school dance, she was drunk again.. yea i know its pretty bad.. but she is really nice and hott! She came up to me and started holding my hands again.. but then she said i wish my boyfriend was here.. but again people say i look like him.. we danced and i got somewhat touchy feely and she didnt seem to care. After that she asked me for a ride home 2 times, and she gave me her number a while ago and i asked if she wanted to hangout and she said yea.. but not when she has a boyfriend cause i wouldnt wanna get her in trouble.
Now i dont talk to her much but she always smiles at me and says hi usually when i see her.. thats if she is alone.. friends seem to have influence on how she acts sometimes. Does this girl like me? Are these signs real, even if she was drunk? why would she tell me that she wasnt that drunk that one time?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
My friend, it's a bad sign if someone only flirts with you when they're drunk. When people are under the influence, they think they love everybody, and EVERYBODY looks attractive to them. This is not a stab at you--I'm just saying that you deserve much better. Don't you want a girl who is crazy about you even when she ISN'T drinking???
Stay away from this one--it can only end badly.
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