He Cheated with Me - I Cheated on Him
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Original Visitor's Question from a 51-60 year old Female
I am a 45 year old woman that has been married for 12 years. I met my husband when he was married. He was not happily married and his wife had moved out and moved to another state. We've been together since then.
To make a very long story short. I love him with all my heart but I don't trust him. I know that a lot of it is because I started dating him while he was still married and I feel that "what comes around go around". I have cheated on my husband because I felt he was cheating on me. I guess I thought that if he could do it, then I could too. However, I didn't even have proof that he had cheated on me.
I have a horrible imagination and regret that I cheated on him and have no intentions of doing it again. I guess maybe I'm so insecure and jealous because I know how easy it is to cheat on someone even though you love them very much. Oh by the way........our sex life has always been wonderful and my husband is very affectionate, even in public.
How do I get over these horrible jealous and insecure feelings??? Thank you!!
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Trust is the key
ok here it is i might be younger, nieve, and not a pro at this but i have been there. you can't get jelouse just because you think he is cheating. and cheating on him because you think he is is even worse. in a relationship you have to build it on trust before anything else. you should tell him how you are feeling and tell him what you did. if he truly loves you he will understand and maybe tell you if he has done anything wrong too. after this you should focus on just trusting him. if he comes home one night and admitts he has been cheating you can eather forgive him again and hope it won't happen again or high tail it out of there because you don't diserve to be treated like that.- i hoped this helped
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