She knows I'd risk life and limb to keep her safe
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
hello. ive written here before. long story short the friend of mine that i have liked for 4 years recently acquired a stocker. He scared her pretty bad. it didnt help that he was her exboyfriend. Anyway she was pretty shook up and upset so i took her away from it all. I took her to a place to be alone and gave her time to think. I told her she can always visit or i can go there when shes worried about being alone with him on the prowl. I even called the guy and I firmly told him to stop (putting my ass on the line) since then he has slowed down.
I even said that "i cared about her"! I told her as well that she could always count on me to be there and that i had her back. I still cant believe i gave her a kiss on the wrist. she hugged me a few times and told me that i was the best and invited me over at her house the very next night because she had the house all to herself. Unfortunately i was unable to go.
1.Is there any chance that my actions and the kiss and the "i care about you" got through, and she's is starting to understand or do i still need to be even more direct?
2.this stocker thing, i have a feeling is not over yet. but she knows id risk life and limb to keep her safe now. is this a bad time to push finally and be as direct as possible?
3.She may need a friend more than a person asking her out. shes vulnerable. but cant i do both? it may even prove how much i care. should i go that final step and ask her at this time? i wont wait much longer anyway.
thanks for any advice you may have.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
thanks man, good idea.
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