Is He Being Friendly or Does He Want to Date?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Ive been friends with this guy for 5 years. in high scholl we would talk her and there, since he had a gril friend his senior year we only talked in math class.
Now we are in college, we started out just walking around the campus and talking for a while and then he always had to leave. Now we carpool together and he picks me up and drops me off at my house. He says he doesnt want me to deal with traffic.
We then begin to text message each other. The weird thing is is that when i do text message him he always replays within the hour at the lastest. If he doesnt replay after 7pm, which is when he works out, he will call me and we will talk for an hour and a half. we usually talk every day or text message each other every day. How do i know if he likes me as a freind or as a potential somebody?
Then all of a sudden he asks me over his house to hang out and play pool. We've done it for the past 3 weeks and then just last week he invited to ice skating and after we ice skated he asked if i was up for pool. so we went to his house and then after we played pool we watched a movie.
Then last Sunday he asked if i wanted to have dinner with him so i said "why not." Just later this week he asked me if i wanted to see a movie with him.
I dont know if this is considered as dating or just hangin out. What am i suppose to do?? I dont want to give him a hug and then he might think "ahh she likes me and i dont like her like that." I want to know if he like me as a good friend to hang out with or as a potential dating person. What signs am i suppose to look for?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
Make physical contact
It's quite obvious, from a guy's perspective, that he is definitely into you. What gives it away? The fact that he spends so much time with you alone, that he picks you up in his car, that he never fails to text message you. Believe it or not, these are huge things to a guy. It sounds like he's not sure if he should make a move, though. The best thing about this relationship is that you are good friends, and have been for a long time. Taking it slow is your style, so go with it, but be confident. Does he do all those things for anyone else? I doubt it. Maybe the best thing for you to do would be to try to make some sort of physical contact with him. Sit closer to him on the couch, hold his hand, take his arm and put it around you during a scary movie. Little things like this give him the confidence he'll need to make a move. If he responds, great! Don't be afraid to talk to him and even ask him what your relationship means to him.
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