I Like Her - She Has a Boyfriend
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Hi there, I am in an extremely difficult situation. It is very similar to some of the Friend to Boyfriend letters you have recieved, but my situation is quite different.
I met this girl about 9 months ago in one of my classes at school, at first i never really talked to her (im really shy and self-conscious) but once i did, I first hung out with her at a club and we seemed to kick it off great, ever since then i have fallin for her. I brought her to my fraternities formal last semester and have tried to show alot of interest in her.
See the big problem is is that she has a boyfriend. But see he is in the army and was sent off in May not to return for 9 months. That was my chance but acouple weeks later i found that she was moving back home for the summer time, so i lost my chance to make any kind of move toward a relationship. Now, she has come back again for the school year so i figured i'd have a second chance, only to recently find out that instead of her boyfriend coming back in 9 moths its now ganna be september 20-25 he will be back. I have talked to all of my friends and they all say to tell her how i feel before he comes back. Its just so hard for me, we are close friends, take classes together and hang out all the time. Like i said im EXTREMELY shy, and lack the confidence around her to tell her how i feel. My time is running short before her BF comes back and i cant stop thinking about her.
WHAT SHOULD I DO??
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
Tell her how you feel! i am in exactly the same situation and was shocked to read that you where in it too. The difference is she knows how i feel and although nothings happend yet, well nothing major, we do talk about it a lot and it proberbly will.
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