i dont wanna fall in love till i know for sure that we can be together.
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
hello, well i was currently with a guy who left me like a week ago. but the thing is that icome over to their house all the time and hang out with thier family. and they knew i was with him. but even though we broke up i still come over. and his brother and i are starting to fall for each other. every chance we get we are touching or kissing. but i dont wanna just do that, i wanna be with him and not have to hide it. wat do u do? i dont want his parents to dislike me or our friends. i dont wanna seem like a hoe. but i really like this guy. i dont wanna fall in love till i know for sure that we can be together. wat should i do? please help. bye bye
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Just go on
I have been messing on and off with this same person for over a year,at one point we were acually officially together.Then i felt as if i was the only one who was acually making a comitment.I do love him with all my heart and soul but now that we are not together he's talking to his ex-girlfriend again and he says that there is no feelings involved and that they are jst friend,but the thing is he's said that before and it turned out that he was just going behind my back,but when i was finally ready to give up on him and i was going to move on he told me how i was the only one for him and he wanted to be with me that he loved me so much,of course i felt for it cause he really did start to change.but now he's back to her n he might even be havin her spend the night at his house.but i can't prove that but then again i wouldn put it past him either.Ya see everytime i try to tell him what i think but he's just always comes to me saying your suppost to trust me.Which is like the death trap because i dont trust him because i know i cant but i cant come to terms to let him go either. All my friends tell me to jusst go on and let him go but they will never understand how hard it is. i just dont know what to do.Only because because no matter how mad i get at him i cant even be mad when i see his face!!!<3
~<3~ jenn ~<3~
It's been really hard and it still is but more and more each day i learn to slip away,all it takes is a big leap a leap to see whats out their,a leap to see who right for you,or a leap to beig by yourself,because if they dont treat you good now and have respect for you now then what makes you think he ever will,the only type of love you need is love at first site from both points of view,you will know and so will your partner!!!!
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