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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
My boyfriend mentioned something about his ex-girlfriend when it happen the first they had sex now, he admitted it was wrong and the he was making a joke. I thought that needed time to get over but the more I think about it the mroe upset I get picturing them doing it. Now I think about everything they could have done together eand the places that they have been and is not his fault I have no rigth to get upset about the past and it is unfair for him, but can I do if I can't stop thinking about it I don't even wanna have sex with him because I can get rid of this sick thoughts. How can I get get over it?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Past no longer matters
I can feel your pain on this subject. I went through the same thing with my boyfriend, except his ex just so happened to be one of my ex friends. It took a lot of time to get over it and I constantly questioned him. I finally got over it one night when we sat down and talked about their realtionship, he assured me that he loved me and that he had a horrible experience with her. I believed him that he loved me and only me. If your boyfriend really loves you and you love him, then your past as well as his past no longer matters, because that is exactly what it is, the past. Don't let it mess up your future together. Good luck!
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