We're Friends, Had Sex and Things Faded Away
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
OK, I HAVE HAD A CRUSH ON ONE OF MY GUY FRIENDS FOR OVER A YEAR NOW. LAST YEAR WE WERE REALLY CLOSE, WE HUNG OUT ALMOST EVERYDAY. I LIKED HIM AND HE LIKED ME BUT IT NEVER REALLY WENT ANYWHERE.
THEN A COUPLE MONTHS AGO WE ENDED UP HAVING SEX BUT AFTER THAT HE COMPLETELY IGNORED ME FOR MONTHS CUZ MY EX BOYFRIEND AND HIM GOT INTO A FIGHT ABOUT IT. WELL RECENTLY, ME AND THIS GUY HAVE BEEN HANGING OUT AGAIN AND MESSIN AROUND BUT WE ARENT CLOSE LIKE WE USE TO BE WHICH DRIVES ME NUTS.
HOW DO I GET THINGS BACK THEY WAY THEY USE TO BE? HOW DO I KNOW IF HE REALLY LIKES ME OR IS JUST USING ME?? PLEASE HELP! I CARE ABOUT HIM ALOT
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male
Express how you feel
I deeply apologize for the answer I am about to give you, but the only true way to get him back is to ignore your ex and go straight for your friend's heart through the front. Express how you feel. No one on this earth (as of late) can read your thoughts, so these two guys are expressing how they feel about each other. What you have to do is establish how you feel. Whichever one, or neither, listens or takes to heart what you want, then maybe the both of them are not right for you. I wish you well on your journey.
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