We're Good but He's Always Studying
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Well I have been with a guy for honestly about 3 months. I have known him for 4 years and he has liked me since I was 17, but that time I was not ready for a relationship. During that time, we had less communication and I continued my life and so did he, but he I felt I was ready we got intouch and now we are together. I feel great when I am with him, but I find that he keeps the distance. We both believe that he hope to marry each other and we are working on that but we have found out that his family do not approve of me. They have not met me or even seen me, or even spoke to me, but they think I am not the righ tone for him. So we are having a relationship and hope we can get over this factor. He always say to me, "think of the best and prepare for the worse."
Anyway moving on... I love him and he loves me, but he keeps saying "if my parents told me to chose between the girl I love or us, I dont know what I would do." I said thats ok, lets continue and make the relationship stronger. So now I am in a stage, that I love someone and I am going out with him, which is fine.
However, another problem is that when he is at home, he doesnt have time to communicate with me, and i believe relationships are built on this, am i right?
We are both sitting our major exams this comin June, so he has decided without talking to me about it, to discontinue to talk to the world and sit in his room and study. I dont mind, but I feel like shit.. coz I feel I am nothing to him. He doesnt answer my emails, calls and I dont want to sound like I am harrassing him, what should I do? Call it a day, end it here? SHould I wait till our exams are over?
I am so confused about this relationship, bt I dont wana lose him coz I lov him.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Male
Love will make a way
Mmm...I see where this is going. It seems as though that the both of you love each other very much, and love is a very strong emotion. It seems as though that he is also wrapped up in studying for his major exam. It sounds like all he's trying to do is establish himself a foothold in life so he may carry you through troubled waters. Don't feel put out. The exams will come and go, but the two of you shal remain. It's liek the saying, "Love is like a rhino, short-sighted and hasty; if it cannot find a way, it will make a way." I hope you two will make each other happy for a very long time. I wish you well.
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