we were messing around and he got on top of me
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
One of my friends (who is EXTEREMLY hot and ive had a crush on) was messing around with me last night. hes really mellow and nice and just a really kool guy all together. but last night.... it was like he changed.
we were messing around and he got on top of me. he kised me and felt my breasts saying he wanted me. He wasnt the person i knew. i didnt believe it was him. we nearly had sex and now i dont know how i can look at him without seeing this new person. How long should i wait till i talk to him? can we still be friends? and how do i know if he loves me and it wasnt just lust? i need to know how i cn ask him these things without scaring him off. its not like i can just sit him down and tell him this. it wuld be to awkward. plz help!
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Trust your gut
wow when i first started reading that i imediatly could relate to the situation your in, this same situation recently happend to me, he was older and i had never been in a romantic or sexual situation with him but all of a suden we were rolling around in bed like so about to have sex!! And i never had seen this part of him before,we didnt talk for a week after that but when we did we basically just said that we were totally attracted to each other but could never date, theres alot of factors involved that limit how much we can really like each other so with us its mostly lust and i guess that's ok for now but it will have to end sooner or later, it could be that this guy loves you alot and when he interacts with you physically he really gets exited becuase all of those love emotions come out...if the feeling he gave you when he kissed you was a bad one then trust your gut dont let him pressure you into having sex unless you really know your ready with him, i dont know if this helped but i thought i'd just tell you about my expeirience hoping it'll help so lol i hope it helps a little,
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