I am going out or dating a married guy..don't even know how to call It
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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
I am going out or dating a married guy..don't even know how to call It..I met him a couple months ago. He's from Atl,Georgia and I am from NY. The day we met he didn't say anything about that he was married until days later he told me and gave me the chance to say goodbye to him but it was already late for me to say goodbye cause my feelings for him were strong enough for me saying goodbye to him I couldn't let him go.I have been a couple times already in Georgia to visit him and viceversa, he comming here to New York and we call each other every day. He has been married for 9 years but after she had the baby everything changed between them he even have told me that he hasn't been sexuality active with her since then..(2 years to be exactly) Something that I doubt it sometimes..I have asked him to please be honest with me..he is always claiming that he have been always honest with me even after he lied the first time telling about his status ..I don't know what to do I want to stop seeing him but right now I don't see any future for us..Because I haven't see any moves from him working on an inmidiate results for us . I really care for him and don't want to loose him but at the same time I don't want to put my life on hold with out not having a guarantee that he will be just with me one day .What should I do???..I'm desperated..Please tell me what to do. Thank you!
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female
Love yourself--move on
You need to get out of the relationship asap. He is to confused to come up with a logical answer either person. He wants a wife and child when he wants them. He also wants a girlfriend on the side. Just think if he is playing a game with you he will play the same game with someone else. He is happy that you are putting all you attention on him this make him feel good. Trust me I have a husband who did the same thing. I gave him more then one chance and you know what I'm the one who ended up getting hurt. Do you self a favior love you self enough to get out and move on.
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