I don't like that my boyfriend save girls that are almose naked to his folders in the computer
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Ok I don't like that by boyfriend save girls that are almose naked to his folders in the computer and likes to look at porn.Though he only does it if I'm not around or if we are in a fight like as a stress reliever. Still I can't get over the fact that he is getting off on other women it hurts so bad. I don't look at other men thinking wow i wonder what it would be like to hook up with him i bettter save this picture. I love him and see only me and him. Am i wrong for this or is it simply because iam a woman and he is a man. He thinks I should just accept it he said its not like hes going after them or acting out on the feelings he has towords other woman. But don't they say that if you fantasie about other people you are truely not in love. I don't think i should have to be ok with it. And recently he locked my out of his computer he said it is a privacy issue and has never really wanted me on his setting but just recently has said something to me and thats how it is going to be weather i like it or not. should i just trust him and give him his space with that issue and maybe he will come around or do i have a reason to be suspicious. sorry if it didn't make sense my mind is so boggled
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Turn about is fair play
Hi I understand what you are saying I feel the same way about it. I told my boyfriend that i didnt like that and I said its like mind cheating your looking at another girl and getting off to it. He says thats not the case he just looks at it to get a picture in his head to get him going then thinks about us or me but it still really bothers me. So I said how would you like if I was like WOW BRAD PITT what a hottie did you see his porno it was wild and he shut up and so far we havent had the problem again. So maybe if you put a picture of a goodlooking guy that he could never be like on you computer back ground or buy a mag. with them on it and see how he acts.
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