Things were Great - then He Faded Away
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I'm a college senior who met someone at a newspaper conference. We got along well and exchanged numbers because we live in totally different parts of the country. For the next two months he called me almost every night and chatted frequently via Yahoo messenger. We got along famously and talked about getting married and having a future together. We even talked about both of us moving to the same place after graduation to be together. I thought it was serious and I was in love.
I went to visit him for a week over New Years and things went pretty well. Since returning back to college, I haven't heard from him very much. I've had to call him to talk and he never seems to be online anymore. I chalked it up to him being busy. Then I sent him a Valentine's Day gift. I made a homemade card with a silly poem and sent a CD of my favorite songs to remind him of me. I thought I was just being romantic and sweet by sending him this, but now I'm afraid that I scared him off.
I've e-mailed him a few times and he hasn't responded back, though I get e-mail confirmations. I don't know whether to keep in contact with him or wait for him to contact me. Should I contact him or give him space? Should I confront him or wait and see how things play out?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Hi my advice is that you should not wait around for him
if he really is that interested then he will contact you
if not then you should move on! :)
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