My Friends are Jealous of my Boyfriend
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
Since the 8th grade, I've had this best friend. We did everything together. We have both dated guys all throughout high school, but neither of us have had a real serious boyfriend, until now. I met this amazing Christian guy, who I have soo much fun with everyday. I have more fun with him than I ever did with her, because she was always only concerned with herself, and her needs, as well as a lot of my other friends.
I have a job, I'm in a sport, and i'm going to school, and somehow i still manage to see him everday as well as take time out to spend with my friends, but for some reason it's not enough. Not only her but all of my friends have started treating him badly, and discluding me from things. From the get-go, they all automatically assumed i'd be ditching them for him...and even though I think I have a great balance, I know i'm losing their friendship.
I'm a senior in High School, so I know that this wont all matter when I go off to college, but it still hurts me everytime I'm with them, because they've all gotten colder with me. I feel so lost, and depressed and worn out from trying to balance everything out in my life i just don't know what to do. When I try to talk to them about it, i feel like I have no arguement at all.
What should I do?? And how can I fix this?
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female
Your "friends" are jealous! Plain and simple!Real friends would be happy that you have found someone special in your life.Jealousy is a common emotion.We all have experienced it at some point in our lives,but,when it is so bad that it affects your relationships with friends,relatives,co-workers,etc then,it becomes a real problem.Jealousy can eat at your soul like a cancer until you become an emotional wreck!I have lost a few friends because someone being jealous! Distance yourself from these "friends" and hang out with people who love and respect you no matter what.
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