I am sure everything I heard is true, I just want him to tell me the truth
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I have a boyfriend, now my fiancee, who owns half a bar with someone. Our relationship was going well, til one day he decides to treat me terrible. I would go up to his bar, and it would sometimes take him 4 hours to even say hi. And he didn't treat me like I was with him at all!! I noticed him and the bartender getting pretty flirty in front of me and I started getting my womenly gut feelings. Then, I started hearing from people that they were dating and other things. I even heard it from the other owners girlfriend. Everytime I ask him about it, he blows up. Lies to my face about it. My best friends brother even saw him!! We have been together for 2 years and have an 11 month old daughter together. I have been nothing but sweet,faithful caring, and trusting to him. I am sure everything I heard is true, I just want him to tell me the truth. I am hurting bad, I can't sleep at night, how do I get him to tell me the truth???
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female
Let him come back
I'm in the same situation. I had rock solid proof he was not where he said he was. I confronted him, giving specific times and places I and others saw him when he was supposed to be home. That's when the lies started flying. I just kept repeating the facts until he got so messed up and lost within in his own lies he stopped talking to me. The problem is I love him. He says he loves me too. All his friends have told me how wonderful he speaks of me and when he holds me I know it's the real thing. BUT his first love is cocaine and I will not take a back seat to a drug addiction. So I stayed away; didn't answer his calls, texts or his friends calls. It's been 8 days since i last talked to him and it's killing me but I stayed strong. Then he showed up at my door with lunch. Over lunch he told me the truth about the night in question. Everything!!! Best part is I know it was the truth. No other woman involved just the damn cocaine. Seperate for now, let him come to you. If he doesn,t, do you want to be with someone who lies always and makes you feel sad? Our relationship is strained and probably will be for awhile but I deserve better. He's getting help but it's a long road. Good Luck
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