She's Got a Boyfriend and She's Flirting with Me
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
About two months ago this girl just started working with me. We started out slow with a hello here and there. But about a week ago she all of a sudden started flirting with me (or at least I think it's flirting). She started off poking me and, then tickeling me and, bumping into me. I began flirting back by tickeling her and whatnot.
However, here is where it becomes confusing. SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. I knew she had a boyfriend all along but I figured a little flirting couldn't hurt. But now it has come to the point where I am just crazy for her. She is absolutly amazing and, I can communicate with her so well. Ironically she has been telling me how her boyfriend is boring and that he doesn't ever want to do anything except cuddle. This gives me the idea that she is losing interest in her boyfriend and is trying to send me a signal that she is showing interest in me. That same night she over heard that I was having pizza and wings at my house and mentioned that she would rather spend the time at my house for some pizza then spend the night with him.
When she left for work one night she gave me this soft touch on my back that sent a very comforting chill through my back. And then of course finished it off with a tickle to my stomach. Like I said before, I've been beginning to flirt back so that she can see I show interest in her. (There was something about that soft touch on my back)
Is it ok for me to ask her out on a simple date so we can talk? I feel this is the best way to get to know her.
I know some girls like to flirt however, out of all the guys I work with, I'm the only one she flirts with. Just thought you should know that.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
no guilty relationships
Some people stay in relationships long past their sell-by-date.
Just because someone is already in a relationship when you meet, it doesn't mean they have to pass up being love just so they don't get branded a heartbreaker.
Tell her you'd maybe like to start something, but that she has to call it a day in her current relationship.
If she insists on staying with him, then ask why. If it's anything other than being in love with him, then she shouldn't be with him.
ANYONE - If you start becoming overly attracted to someone else while you're already in a relationship- especially a serious relationship- then you have to question if being in a relationship at all is right for you. Be true to yourself- don't stay in a relationship out of guilt!
When you find your mrs/mr right, you never look elsewhere :-D
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