She has a boyfriend now though. Can I tell her I have feelings for her while she is still with him?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have written to you before but I felt I wasn't completely honest. I met this girl three years ago on a mission trip. She was there with her then boyfriend who is my really good friend. They broke up about a year and a half ago. Since then (three years ago) I have liked her a lot. I would do things like always pass by her locker so I could say hi. We are friends now and we hang out from time to time. But I want more. After we go to the movies and we part I feel depressed. I want to spend every waking moment of the day with her. I am now a freshman in college and she is a senior in high school. I love her because I have had many crushes before and have gotten over them no problem. Now I can't stop thinking about her. She has a boyfriend right now though. Can I tell her I have feelings for her while she is still with him? Could we have a relationship while I am in college and she is in high school? (We do live only about a half hour away from each other.) If I told her and she didn't share the same feelings how would she react and what would happen to our friendship? This has become a seriouds problem. I want her so badly so please give me in depth advice. Thank You for your time.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
I would say definitely tell her that you have feelings for her but do not be overbearing with, just throw that out there. You never know she might feel the same way about you and things just so happen to not work out with her boyfriend then there could be a possibility for you and her. After you tell her though it is crucial that you do not change the way you act around her and be cool. I also sense infatuation. Be careful.
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